Enter the world of Kiki Astor. Escapist, old money aesthetic romances & etiquette & lifestyle tips.
Kiki Astor
Bestselling romance author | Old money aesthetic maven | Etiquette expert
Kiki Astor is the author of old money aesthetic romance novels set in elite playgrounds and elegant enclaves. Whether you frequently travel to Montecito, St Barths, St Tropez, Middleburg, Greenwich, Gstaad, Mallorca, and the Napa Valley, or are simply dreaming of it, these escapist reads will introduce you to a world of luxury and scandal.
Kiki lives a geographically confused but rich life with her delightful husband, mortified children, and incredibly demanding lap dog.
When she isn’t penning slightly naughty stories, she keeps herself busy doling out rich life on a budget, old money aesthetic and etiquette advice on the internet and on her popular podcast, Awkward Etiquette, as everyone’s favorite Auntie Kiki.
Have burning question about highfalutin manners and the lifestyle and mores of the .01%?
Books by Kiki Astor
Smart, escapist steamy romance books that transport you to exclusive enclaves where the wealthy live and play.
What is your EXACT old money aesthetic? Which old money archetype will you grow up to be? How good are your manners?
Your Auntie Kiki has devised freakishly accurate quizzes that will tell you everything you ever needed to know about yourself.
Pssst… Did someone say SHOPPING? Check out Auntie Kiki’s Amazon shop for all the old money aesthetic goodies your little heart desires, darling!
Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor
The podcast you didn’t know you needed.
Have burning questions about etiquette or old money aesthetic? Wondering what to wear to your next cocktail party? Hoping to brush up on your social skills and banish social anxiety? Want to live a rich life on a “nouveau pauvre” budget? Auntie Kiki’s podcast is a treasure trove of information and inspiration.

Reviews for Kiki Astor’s escapist romance books
-Keeps you right there until the end- then leaves you wanting more. -Christine D.
-Entertaining AF. -Gabbi S.
-Smart, spicy, addictive fun. Kiki Astor is the new Jackie Collins. -Anna E.B.
-I literally galloped through this steamy romp of a book! -Georgia G.
-Peeks into the lives of the ultra rich, horses, and royal tittle-tattle. -Christiane B.T.
Kiki Astor in the News!
-“Montecito socialite Kiki Astor exclusively reveals what really goes off behind the scenes in the ‘hyper-sexual’ sport…” – The Sun.
-“Astor, who is an author of raunchy polo novel Stick & Ball, told the outlet: ‘Polo is a hyper-sexual sport. Everyone is having affairs. There is a lot of sex’….” – Daily Mail.
-“Meghan Markle, Prince Harry’s political documentary is flawed, says an insider…” –Geo News.
-“Polo oozes sex. All that leather and sweat…” – Daily Mail.
-“About a year and a half ago, “Old Money TikTok” became a phenomenon, but it’s still going strong, with figures like (…) Kiki Astor demystifying (…) what “old-money” types actually wear: L.L.Bean Boat and Totes instead of Chanel handbags, Barbour jackets instead of Blair Waldorf plaids.” –Harper’s Bazaar.
-“Polo is a hyper-sexual sport. Everyone is having affairs. There is a lot of sex. You have macho men, many of whom are gorgeous and Argentinian, thundering around on horseback holding big mallets playing a game which is fast and dangerous.” –2OceansVibe
-“TikTok’s ‘Old Money’ guru Kiki Astor @kikiastor unveils new romance novel, ‘Low Season In St. Tropez’ – a luxe romance mixing love, glamour, and adventure.” –Fox 59
-“A provocative package, to be sure.” –Siteline SB
Auntie kiki’s blog
Old money lifestyle & aesthetic, etiquette tips, and inspiration.
Old money paradoxes
I’m poor now—but I grew up rich, around old money people. And let me tell you, they are… peculiar. They’ll have trust funds, but no central...
Unhinged answers to nosy questions, relationship and procreation edition
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Darwinism in pearls: answering the dreaded question: “so what do you do all day?”
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Weird old money coded insult: “You have such good skin.”
When an old money person compliments your skin, they might actually be insulting you. Let’s discuss. We’ve all heard the stereotype: rich people...
How to tell if someone’s old money: linguistic “secret handshakes”
.You can tell within seconds whether someone’s old money or not—and it has nothing to do with their handbag or how they’re dressed. It has to do...
How to score an invite to their Hamptons guest cottage
Have you noticed how some people seem to manage to secure invitations to the best guest houses -in the Hamptons, for example, summer after summer?...
Marble countertops make you look poor.
Marble countertops make you look poor. Here's what to choose instead. Marble countertops don't make you look rich. You may think Carrara marble...
My thoughts on the Walmart Birkin…the Wirkin?
My thoughts on the Walmart Birkin...the Wirkin? My husband once bought me an Hermès bag, and I was so angry. Not because he got me a Kelly and I...
How to politely express that you don’t like someone
How to (politely) express that you don't like someoneYou may think it's so elegant to get along with everyone, but I find that in society and in...
Kiki Astor’s St Barth Guide
Kiki Astor has been vacationing on St Barth for decades, and even spent her honeymoon there, so it has a special place in her heart. She was lucky...